Confidence is a state of mind, it comes from within and it can be developed over time. Being confident means different things to different people and you’re the only one who knows what self-confidence feels like for you.
Developing your confidence can result in greater success, increased self-worth, improved relationships and a feeling of being connected. Our confidence effects every aspect of our lives, from how people treat us to how much money we earn. Confidence really is a state of mind and making small changes in your behaviour can really boost your confidence and change your life.
There are lots of ways you can boost your confidence but here are my top 5 confidence boosting tips (check out my YouTube channel for more). They might seem very obvious and simplistic but TRUST ME, they work. Pick one or two confidence boosting tips that appeal to you and give them a go, you’ve nothing to lose!
#1 Take up space
Take up plenty of space when you’re sitting down to demonstrate that you are not afraid to make yourself comfortable. The space you take up reveals how powerful you feel. Try sitting with a wider, relaxed posture and drape your arms across the chair. Having an open body position signals to the brain that you’re feeling confident.
#2 Slow down
Speaking and moving too quickly makes you appear nervous, out of control and less confident. A confident person speaks slowly as they know who ever is listening to them values what they are saying. Walking and completing tasks in a slower, composed manner will also give you a sense of control and an air of confidence. SLOW DOWN, believe in what you are saying or doing, you will feel more confident.
#3 Learn to say NO
Saying NO and being honest with others when you don’t want to do something can be challenging. However, by constantly saying YES to people and doing things that you don’t want to do, you may end up feeling resentful and demoralised. Being honest about your feelings and saying NO to others feels awkward at first and it does take practice. Start by saying NO to little things, the more you practice the easier it will get. By putting yourself first and respecting your needs you will gain more control of your life and build your confidence.
If you have low self-confidence you may feel less than others. Comparing yourself to other people is detrimental to your confidence and your self-esteem. There will always be someone who is prettier or more successful than you. It may look like others have their lives on track and they are better than you but they are not. See yourself as being equal to everyone, regardless of where you are in life right now. “I’m not better than anyone. Nobody’s better than me.”
A moment of silence during a conversation can be unsettling at times but sitting with silence actually demonstrates confidence. Confident people don’t blame themselves for a lull in conversation, they see silence as a chance to think before they speak. Being confident isn’t about being the loudest, chattiest person in the room, it’s about knowing and trusting yourself.
Using these everyday confidence boosting tips you will gradually begin to change your self perception. Building self confidence takes time but confidence really does come from within. Take control of your self-confidence and start believing in yourself today.